Signs and Synchronicity
I’m all too familiar with the concept of signs. I’m constantly asking God for a sign every few days at this point. So I would definitely say I’m a signs person. But this isn’t only reserved for spiritual people. Every once in a while we just need a little reassurance.
A sign is an information sent to you by a ‘spiritual force’ to get you to understand something, take action or become aware of something that could help or hurt you. It is designed for you to perceive and take action upon. Carl Jung coined a term for it, Synchronicity, the coming together of inner and outer events in a way that cannot be explained by cause and effect and that is meaningful to the observer.
The keyword is meaning, a bunch of correlating random events mean nothing unless they have significance and meaning to the observer which is sometimes life-changing.
Types of Signs
Environment-Environment Interaction is obvious, and easy to understand. These coincidences are observable. Something, or a series of things, happens in the physical world that often points to something meaningful about to happen in your life. I travel from Nigeria to New York and see my classmate in a church, who later becomes my best friend.
Mind-Environment Interaction is learning a new word and then suddenly seeing it everywhere. Or getting a song stuck in your head and hearing it everywhere you go, or wondering about something and then stumbling onto an article about it. The things on our minds seem to bleed out into the world around us. This is an effect that Arnold Zwicky calls “the frequency illusion,” It’s just that once you’ve noticed something, your brain is primed to notice it again. You may have noticed it before but now that it’s meaningful your attention catches it.
Mind-Mind Interaction is just weird. One example of this is simulpathity, a term Beitman coined to describe feeling the pain or emotion of someone else at a distance. His interest in this particular type of coincidence is deeply personal. But I might even say prophetic.
A Short Stich For Signs
Signs are sometimes a personal experience and we ascribe meaning to each encounter as we see fit. We can’t decide for someone if it’s a chance or a random event.
We can’t say that the people who make meaning from coincidences are irrational. The process by which we notice coincidences is “part of a general cognitive architecture which is designed to make sense of the world,” says Magda Osman, an associate professor in experimental psychology.
At the end of the day, your belief system determines the gravity of the sign over your life, “You really come across a question of just what belief system you have about how reality works,” Beitman says. “Are you a person who believes the universe is random or are you a person who believes there’s something going on here that maybe we gotta pay more attention to?”
“A coincidence is in the eye of the beholder.”
Distrust In Signs
People become liberal with what they call coincidences when it’s easy and convenient to do so. We are fairly egocentric about our coincidences. The psychologist Ruma Falk found in a study that people rate their own coincidences as more surprising than other people’s. I remember telling a friend about this huge sign I got and he downplayed it so much that I began to doubt myself and inclining.
Morever, there are lots of people on this planet. According to the Law of Truly Large Numbers, “with a large enough sample, any outrageous thing is likely to happen.” Even within the relatively limited sample of your own life, there are many opportunities for coincidences to happen. When you consider all the people you know and all the places you go and all the places they go, chances are a chance encounter is going to happen. But it’ll still seem like a coincidence when it does.
To demonstrate how common unlikely-seeming events can be, mathematicians have what is called the birthday problem. The question is how many people need to be in a room before there’s a 50/50 chance that two of them will share the same birthday. The answer is 23.
How We Weigh Signs
At the end of the day, it’s up to us. Signs make us have surprising and connected experiences and we either create meaning out of them or we don’t. If we begin to get a little desperate for these signs, there’s normally a deeper issue at play. We need to weigh each sign we get, if it’s even a sign and whether it applies to our lives.
We throw objectiveness out the window when we don’t want to handle making a decision. We get all wrapped up in emotions and inhibitions and all that kind of stuff when we should be coming at it from a place of logic and reason.
That ad you saw after searching for the item on google is not a sign you should get it. Are your finances saying you can or do you want to go off impulses alone? If you want to do that at least do it with your chest.
Take a step back and look at your situation from a totally removed position. How would you approach this if you were a stranger to the situation? This is the most objective way to loom at a situation. It’s like asking advice from yourself.
Self -Awareness Discerns the Wrong Signs
Being so in touch with who you are and every inclining of how you feel will help you know immediately that the sign is not for you and that making that decision will be the worst thing for you.
Recently, I’d been having intense negative feelings towards my hair,I was tired of it. In the midst of expressing my feelings a friend suggested I cut it. I laughed at the idea cause I knew that was not for me at all. But all of a sudden people I know and follow started cutting their hair and I could have taken that as a sign. But i didn’t. We ascribe meaning to what we want to, I put my hair in a protective style and kept it moving. In this case, greatness was not on the other side of courage.
In this case, self-awareness helped me to not make a premature decision and do something I’ll definitely regret.
Delaying Decision Making
Looking for signs is sometimes an avenue to delay the decision we already need to make. Like we know what we need to do but we delay it because of the kind of discomfort that might come with it.
From the feeling of fear to imposter syndrome to jerking the responsibility that succeeds in making the decision.
Searching for Signs is a way to avoid accountability of making a decision. It’s another type of the blame game . I’ll attribute this decision to the sign so I can say if wasn’t really my fault after its repercussions. There are just come weighty decisions that’ll make us want to do this and granted that’s okay.
However, if the consequences of the decision are good can you truly that this was your doing or is it a case of just have what to blame if it all goes wrong.
It’s like asking a friend for advice and blaming them when it doesn’t go how you like.